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When Bullies Attack – Self-Defense for KidsHow to Teach Your Child to Physically Defend Against The School Bully On That Day When Nothing Else WorksPreparing Your Child to Face The BullyWhat does your child do when everything we’ve heard about dealing with a bully doesn’t work? There’s no teachers or school security around and your child is face to face with the school bully. WHAT SHOULD HE/SHE DO….!I’m going to:* Prepare your child mentally to face the bully* And irrevocably, when your child must either take a beating or defend himself/herself :/* How many times to hit the bully* Where to hit the bully so he/she will reckon twice previous to attacking your child again (no you do not know the spot)/* I’m also going to teach your child how to defend himself/herself even while your child is frightened to death to get hit or hit back./ No one wants to reckon about this, but it does become necessaryWhat’s Incorrect With The Habitual Martial Arts Training?A habitual martial arts school would place your child in a nice loose fitting karate uniform, have him/her line up in a nice line and practice in front of a mirror. The parents like it. The kids are listening. Yelling yes sir or yes mam. They seem to be learning.Then The Bully Shows UpHe shoves your child while verbally abusing him/herYour child wasn’t trained to handle this. No one spar to him/her like this previous to. He/she didn’t have time to get into a fighting stance and kia (yell). Your child gets beaten. This was hard for me to write, but it does happen.So What Do You Do to Make Sure Your Child Can Face The Bully if He/She MustI’m going to clarify all this to you by telling you how I trained Chris to defend himself against a bully. Chris was an 11 year ancient boy when his mom contacted me about my self-defense ad in the newspaper. She clarified to me an older and larger boy was bullying Chris nearly everyday.The school administration didn’t seem to be able to do anything about it. Furthermore, she realized teachers can’t be there all the time. Her child had to walk home from school, go to recess and engage in other school activities where a teacher may not be available immediately to help Chris.Basic self-defense was not going to be enough for Chris. I’ve seen those classes and to be trustworthy, they place forward no preparation for the real world whatsoever. So what I needed to do, was bring the real world to Chris, a small at a time.Physical PreparationThe first stage for Chris was teaching him how to block or avoid being attacked. So I questioned him frankly”What kind of things does this boy do to you”It turned out to be anything from shoving him to punching him.So we started with blocks.The blocking drills were very basic and involved blocking my punches. Not standing in front of a mirror and trying to look pretty.All of the blocking drills involved blocking my focus pad or my armNow, here’s how I at a snail’s pace started to desensitize Chris….You are responsible for your own events. I do not accept responsibility for any injuries. Permanently see a physician previous to engaging in any physical activities.I started with nice simple focus mitt strikes to his head. Swinging in a nice simple arc. I didn’t say block, I said knock my hand away. Anyone can knock your hand away without knowing how to block. Ultimately I struck harder and harder. He cultured to snap his wrist a bit and, because he was blocking a hard hitting target and not just using the mirror or a pad at the end of a whiffle ball bat, his stability started to improve while blocking as well.Caution is advised here for blocking drills. You or your child may get bruised arms.Here’s a section from my book on Blocking. Don’t worry I’ll clarify after you read the section.This is an excerpt of my book How to Block BetterDesensitization and Blocking DrillUse this drill to practice all three types of blocks. blocks. Don’t forget your bent raised legs can be used to block as well. Padding may be required.1. Get a partner with control2. Have your partner do a single strike towards you at a distance safe for you yet you feel slightly uncomfortable with.3. Wear whatever protection you require to keep from being injured. Saying material like this puts the responsibility on you to be safe in case some idiot reader won’t accept responsibility for his/her own events.4. Your partner continues to get closer and closer to you until he/she must pull the strike for safety to avoid injuring you.5. The same practice should be executed each time. Thus the only factor that changes is your comfort amount.6. Now thrash sides. Opposite striking limbs. Opposite stances. Desensitize covering all the potential differences while still utilizing the same strike. Repeat steps one through five above.7. Now select a block repeating steps one through six using the same block. You and your partner may need bonus padding for your arms and legs to avoid bruising. If you’ve never blocked previous to reckon of it as knocking your partners limb away.8. Thrash blocking arms. Repeat steps one through six.9. Exchange striking techniques. Your partner should select a strike aimed at a different body part. Repeat steps one through eight.10. Exchange striking angles. For example if your partner had executed a reverse punch or straight punch towards your head now your partner should do a hooking punch toward your head. Repeat steps one through nine.11. Your partner now executes two attacking techniques repeating steps one through 1012. Your partner now executes three attacking techniques repeating steps one through 1013. Removed to keep within article directory guidelines.14. Repeat steps one through 13.End Blocking Book SectionDon’t worry about the three different types of blocks. The only two rules about blocking is don’t get hit and don’t block with your face.Obviously you don’t have to thrash partners. Start with a touch simple as an open hand tap to your child’s head which he/she must block and work your way to controlled punches such as a left and right thwart. Don’t worry as much about how to punch towards your child as the angle that you use to practice with your child.I place sparring gloves on as I started attacking him with combinations. These can be found at any sporting goods store. These are not replacements for controlling your punches or kicks. This is where you and I may differ. I can stop an inch away from my target at full speed. You may want to practice this on a touch other than your child previous to you speed up on your strikes.Remember, do not do any exercise with which you are not comfortableThis continued to all body parts. Each time early at a snail’s pace so he could get used to blocking that area. We even did kicks in the same manner. Safety warning, have your child keep a closed fist when he/she blocks low to avoid jamming his her fingers.Now I did combinations. Once again at a snail’s pace at firstHead to bodyBody to headKick then punchPunch then kickAs he got better at blocking I allowed him to go around to help to avoid being hit.Now I Started Count The Intimidation FactorThis will take a small acting on your part. You must now make your face look mad and start the same blocking drills as above. You can still use the focus mitt or pillow for the head strikes (remember once again a focus mitt or pillow can still hurt). You can try skipping to a speed your child is slightly uncomfortable with for this drill instead of early at a slow pace.Why do you practice at a slightly uncomfortable speed for your child? So your child will have a chance to get comfortable with the speed. Do not overwhelm your child. Make the block achievable.As your child starts getting used to your “mean face” add vocalization. For example as I would shove my student I would say”Com’on last name, let’s go. Small shrimp you wanna fight?!”Find out what your child’s bully has been saying to him/her to intimidate him/her. Not the insults, just those vocalizations the bully uses to try to goad your child into fighting. Introduce this at a snail’s pace to your child and let your child know what you’re doing previous to hand.You’ll find as your child gets used to hearing these vocalizations and seeing your face he/she will be able to react better to defend himself/herself. This is a serious part of self-defense training evenly missed in martial arts schools and self-defense courses.”I don’t want to fight you. Now walk away so no one gets into distress” Now days is a excellent thing to say nice and loud in front of witnesses.Overcoming Dread in a Self-Defense SituationHow do you overcome dread in a self-defense situation? In the end you don’t, you learn to use the dread instead. Making it a tool that you shape not allowing dread to control you. All fine and dandy, but how do you go about learning how to use dread?Let’s examine what dread is. Dread is an emotional response to stimuli either eternal or internal. Dread has certain physiological responses.Increased heart rateIncreased respirationIntroduction of epinephrines into the body which constrict capillaries, increase strength and increase speed.There are various mental responses to fearFreezing up. Not being able to go at all though your mind may be telling to run, block, fight!Rage. Rage and dread are very closely related. A reaction to dread of rage will at the very least help you to survive better than freezing up, but it could also inhibit your thought processes and get you killed.Trained reaction to dread. Your body relaxes, your mind focuses. Adrenaline increases your strength and speed making you a very perilous individual.I’ve personally spent a long time studying dread and it’s various physiological and psychological things on individuals. I’ve urban a very excellent method of dealing and working with the dread response, which frankly and indirectly over the years has saved my life from avoiding car collisions to defending my life.There are two different ways of training to use dread.1. Place yourself in life threatening situations on a fixed basis.This method has the drawback of ending your training career at an early start.2. Place yourself in life threatening situations on a fixed basis mentally.This method has the advantage of extending your training career while at the same time possibly saving your life.Many martial artists spend their lives learning to block and strike. Going through situation after situation. Attacks from the front attacks from behind, from the side, multiple attackers.Some martial artists don’t even practice these scenarios. Assuming the same defensive reaction from the front will work from the side and from attacks from behind. Some martial arts instructors when questioned “what if” by their students will simply say, “just don’t place yourself in that spot”. If that were the answer there would be no need to take self-defense at all. Just don’t place yourself in that spot.For those martial artists who do practice situational self-defense training, many of you are not allowing for the mental aspect of a physical attack.Mental attentiveness for a physical attack, I believe, is even more vital than the physical side of preparing for an attack. Why do you reckon it is that a trained martial artist would dread a seasoned street fighter (weird term). Because the street fighter has been in real fights. The few tricks he’s picked up to win a street brawl have really been executed by him under the mental stress of a life and death situation Most martial artists, fortunately, have not had this misfortune.My Method of Emulating FearLet’s look back at the physiological things of dread once again.Increased heart rate and respiration are two major physiological responses to dread.A tensing of voluntary muscle groups is a further, more so in the untrained individual.If you emulate these three physiological responses to dread, you will be on your way to emulating it mentally as well.So first a slight tension of voluntary muscle groups. Now increase your breathing. Fleeting shallow breaths are best to emulate this physiological response. Now to The Mental AspectYou need a padded up live partner. For this drill I would evenly take an air shield and tie it to the front on an advanced student.You need to have enough mental control to remember to strike only the air shield of your partner.Now your partner must do some acting as well. He/She must look both in the face and body language as though they intend to hit you and hurt you. Even emulating the foul language you might hear from an attacker in an attempt to intimidate you would help.Now you place it in your mind that your partner is not your partner. He’s a weirder that intends on doing you harm, mugging you, raping, beating you senseless and unless you defend yourself and hit this !@#$ just as hard as you can and don’t get hit yourself that’s just what’s going to happen.Start with a prearranged attack and counter-attack, but, place it out of your mind that you really know what’s going to happen. Feel the dread and tension previous to the attack, then block or evade like you mean it, like your life depends on it and counter-attack (ultimately at the same time genuinely). Takes turns doing this with your partner. Be careful not to get so carried away you hurt him. Remember it’s his turn next.Now from here perform the same mental and physical attentiveness and go to my one step sparring variations you can find in (removed for article directories) Take up again to strike just the air shield for now.Now place some pads on and remove the air shield. Do one step variations again. Same mental stress of a real situation, but strike somewhere and pull the practice so you don’t hurt your partner.The combination of striking the air shield full contact and pulling the techniques on your partner when striking somewhere help prepare you both mentally and physically to strike full contact somewhere on your attacker, under the stress of a life threatening situation.Ready to Become More Perilous?Start again with all of your self-defense drills. Emulate your dread for at least 10 seconds to place yourself in a life-threatening mental attitude.Now consciously relax your muscles. Make your breathing slightly quicker than habitual to emulate a threat, but make it deeper as well as if you were trying to control rapid breathing.Now start again and add a mental aspect to start working with your dread and stress. Start again with your drills and this time take your dread and turn it into rage. It’s not the final solution yet, but it will give you a better chance of survival than being frozen in place solid.Turning dread into rage takes practice, but isn’t that hard to accomplish. As I said earlier the two emotions are very similar. In the end this can be accomplished with an example such as this;Instead of, “Oh my gosh, this weirder wants to hurt me!”You exchange it to a touch like, “WHAT!? THIS SCUMBAG LOWLIFE WANTS TO HURT ME! I’LL SHOW THIS !@#$!”Now add your rapid breathing to this and slight muscular tension and remember YOU’RE ANGRY!Now do your steps to relax and attempt to control your breathing while remaining mad.After you can successfully emulate rage when you want to now take your final step.Start again with your self-defense drills. Follow all of my above steps, but now empty your mind! Void it of emotion. Let your well trained reflexes from various scenarios take over guided by subtle consciousness and thought. You may need to practice a meditation exercise for this which you can find in my removed for article directories.You must be careful not to hurt your partner during any of these drill phases.ShovingShoving or pushing is a very common way to start a physical altercation even amongst adults.Now you must start at a snail’s pace again. No rage, but this will go quicker than previously. Your child can practice stating “I don’t want to fight you. Now walk away so no one gets into distress” during this drill as it progresses.Single Hand ShoveKnock it away like your child did the punch. One advantage to note if your child blocks to the outside of your arm he/she may be able to get behind you or the your side. Thus limiting your next available weapons of your body to use against him/her.Dual Handed ShoveWhatever the bully has done to your child be sure to simulate that. If you’re simply preparing your child for the possibility of bullies try all types of angles and attacks.ConclusionThat’s really all I can give you in the confines of the internet and and article directorySo What Irrevocably Happened With Chris?You may be wondering. As I retract, the bully approached Chris in the school yard with some of the bully’s followers and shoved Chris. Chris knocked the bully’s hands away and kicked him in the stomach knocking him to the ground. Chris didn’t run, he knew the bully’s acquaintances would chase him simply out of a predator flight-chase response. Instead Chris stood there facing the bully in the fighting stance I described to you.A shocked look on the bully’s followers faces as well as one on the bully himself. Irrevocably the bully stood up. Chris stood there in his fighting stance not saying a word. The bully mumbled a touch and walked off with the bully’s followers following.